Why would people rather be in a coffin instead of giving the eulogy?

Since PUBLIC SPEAKING STILL remains the #1 fear people have…Jerry Seinfeld simply said that headline sentence best! He builds it into his presentations with confidence…because that’s what he has! Many of us are not talented as him.

But for those WHO DO hate public speaking more than death…we CAN choose to take control of this fear, instead of it controlling us!

It has been proven that ALL fears can be handled and adapted to with time. You choose when and where. How critically important is it to your life to make this change and control this fear? By controlling it,… will you have more self confidence? How about better job security and respect within your work environment? These two statements alone, justify how critically important it is…that YOU choose to take the next steps.

Start by writing down your fears and what will happen to you when  you address and specifically tackle this fear. Most of your colleagues will not chastise you OR humiliate you.They probably will give you words of encouragement and state that “they’re glad they  did not have to do what you just did!”

So you do have to “name it to claim it!” By acknowledging the fear, you’ve taken the first big step in controlling it. Next you have to take the baby steps of preparing your presentation by standing in front of a mirror and presenting it to yourself. Then do it a 2nd & 3rd time…but with credibility. Each time, create something different about your presentation.

Put a pause in where it would benefit a point you need to make. Only make the pause a second or two. This technique gives your presentation impact. And only practice allows you to deliver it with clout! Remember…”think you can…think you can’t…either way you are right!”

And the acronym for FEAR is F.alse E.xpectations A.ppearing R.eal. This emotion can be a dominating force. Take these initial steps and then practice presenting to a friend or to your pet. Sounds silly…but it works!

Seeking additional help? Email me at Eileen@StrongIncentives.com with your concerns and questions. They both are free…and advice is priceless!

“Thanks for the memories……..So as I gaze back at this picture I realize the journey that many of us have been on.

Woodrow Wilson Elementary School, West Allis, Wisconsin

Smiles, friendships, growth, loss and aging are all innocently presented in this picture. More than enough of these smiling 3rd graders have already passed away. Quite the shock! Makes you realize how brief life truly is.
As a professional speaker and trainer I share many stories from my childhood…and capture them to my audience memories.
I’ll say….”come back with me” to your years of innocence and fun filled experiences. Maybe not so much fun, but truly memorable. Or as the late great Jerry Garcia sang from the Grateful Dead….”What a long strange trip it’s been!”
Well that IS the truth. Each day lived, is another day of life that we were blessed to live and learn from.
Whether you feel alive and vibrant or slow and tired due to a multitude of reasons….you truly appreciate each day. I know you’ve heard that before….but think about it again. What if you knew you had only 1 month…or1 week or 1 day left? What would you do? What would you WANT to experience.
Please take every precious moment you are blessed with and savor it.
You are worth it….because NO one is as INCREDIBLE AS YOU!
Believe that….think that….and live it!

“Think you can…think you can’t…either way you’re right!”

Henry Ford is credited for this sentence….but sadly he never “thought” his only son (Edsel)…could! A lifetime of criticism & disbelief in his sons skills, caused long term conflict between father & son. Once words are spoken, a thousand horses can’t pull them away. Sadly Henry Fords wisdom was hypocritical in this situation. Edsel Ford never recovered from his fathers actions & beliefs.
And yes there is a true “rise and fall” story of the infamous Edsel automobile. Sadly it was a fiasco!

Are you ever thinking or doubting that you can do something? Many of us have….and affects our productivity & profitability.
Belief in yourself and your team remains critically important. Giving a co-worker, a family member or a team leader support is a major catalyst .
Look at the picture of this fish. What tenacity!

Everyday your supportive criticism must be interlaced with praise that motivates. For long term positive results, practice this in your professional & personal life
You, your family & your team members are worth it!

As a professional motivational speaker on Communication & Change Management, Strong incentives, delivers this with every productive presentation. Contact EileenStrong.com to find out that the walk that I talk is applicable to you team too!

The Power of the Red Cross!

Disaster after disaster they continue to help people in need. Our Jersey Shore Red Cross has been very busy still helping us out of the massive damage from Storm Sandy, BUT they got in their trucks 2 nights ago, and headed out to Moore, Oklahoma!

Their objective is to help…without questions.  They take action and follow through.

On June 5th, The Jersey Shore Chapter of the Red Cross and Shore Women’s business group are holding an event to raise additional funding for 5 family’s that have been devastated by “Storm Sandy.” These people have LOST EVERYTHING….and of course we are no longer in the news (which is understandable) but their lives are still in a “holding  pattern.”

Please don’t take your precious life and your surroundings for granted in anyway. Honor and live it to the fullest….yet always find if there is someone else you can help.

Were you “fortunate’ enough to see the footage of the elderly woman in Moore, Oklahoma talk about the shelter she sought in her home along with her dog Bowser? She prayed to God to spare her and her pet….but alas she could not find her precious pet amidst the horrific rubble. While filming the interview, the TV producer took a gasp and said…”THE DOG”…”THE DOG!”….and the camera swooped over to even more rubble….AND there were those  scared eyes of “Bowser!!”

The elderly woman strained to lift a heavy piece of debris, and other people helped…and soon Bowser was standing on all 4’s and free from the wreckage. She then said “I asked God for 2 prayers…and I thought I only got 1…..but he blessed me with 2!!!”

My heart soared with joy as I watched this unfold! As yours would too!

So celebrate your life everyday, because you are worth it! Always feel free to contact me at Eileen Strong anytime for uplifting presentations that make a difference.

And do what Ellen Degeneres says at the end of each show….”Be kind to one another!”

Published in: on May 23, 2013 at 6:49 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Whose winning your “rat race?”

With all the constant social media, extra responsibilities at work, and less personal time….does it ever seem as if ” the rats” are winning?

Doesn’t it seem as if your 24 hour day keeps getting less & less. Staying on top of all your professional and personal responsibilities seems to chisel away at it even more.
So who’s winning your race?
Staying on top of intentionally giving yourself “downtime” is critical. Otherwise you’ll continue to be sucked into that quagmire of taking on more, accomplishing most…..and then running out of time….(your time!”)
Personally, I have two friends that are down to their last several or few months. Depends on how aggressive their cancers continue to dominate their 60 year old body.
Whether you know about Dr. Kubler-Ross and her D.A.B.D.A. acronym….you should read this and understand it. Because this acceptance of end….is applicable not only to life….but to a relationship….a loss of job….loss of a pet….a house, etc.
Here are the steps:
D.enial  A.nger  B.argaining  D.epression  A.cceptance
Each of these stages you have already gone thru…and probably many, many times.
If you lose a job…immediately you go thru…

Denial…”what do you mean you’re letting me go?”
Anger…”.mad that you were the one to get released”
Bargaining….”what can I do to get my job back?”
Depression….”Oh no, oh no, oh no…why me?”
Acceptance….”I guess this is what is going to happen.”

So, who IS winning your rat race?
Even if you win….there will always be another bigger, faster, younger rat…no matter what!”
So pace yourself, enjoy your work, enjoy your life….and look forward to that treadmill continuously going round and round…and round.
In other words…..enjoy the ride!

Published in: on March 18, 2013 at 11:53 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Merry Christmas…..Happy Holidays….Bah humbug!

The fun and freedom of Christmas, of presents & decorating have been so “politically corrected”….that the innocence, spontaneity and fun have faded! I would like to say, without even thinking about it “Merry Christmas!” That would be so refreshing! 

I know and respect the vast amount of religions in the world. And that is great. It has been that way for centuries. Let’s keep it that way. No one apprehensive of offending someone because you said “Merry Christmas.” if it is comfortable for your belief system….great. But quite frankly, we are all in this together. This is a small world in many ways. Here on the Jersey Shore we took a beating compliments of “Sandy.” It will take many, many months if not years to pick up the pieces. But we are ALL working together….to help one another. Whether you say “Happy Holidays” or “Merry Christmas” or “Happy Chanukah”…say it and mean it and enjoy the sincerity of saying it. We have a lot of damage all around us. We are all willing to help everyone heal….and that is what is so great about “mankind.” As we pickup the pieces, and put our lives back together. Let’s all take a deep breath, and enjoy the beauty of this day. Individually, each and everyday….every holiday….every event…every special moment of life! As a motivational speaker, I speak about change, and how we adapt to it, what we have to do to adapt to it. We are certainly going thru change now……and this is going to be a tough one, for a long time to come. But I will celebrate the beauty & simplicity of Christmas the next several days…and enjoy every special moment! To those who celebrate this special holiday….I wish you and your family a genuine “Merry Christmas” to you and the people who are special in your life!   Eileen Strong…”The Corporate Chameleon” – Addressing change and accepting it!

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