Want To Deliver A Knockout Speech…but your FEAR of public speaking stops you!

It’s a fact that this #1 fear that people have, has stopped thousands of people!

You have a message that you know with confidence, but your fear limits your ability!

Do you belong to that group? Well, welcome to a group that is crowded…very crowded.

#1) Write your speech out on 8×10 sheets, and put it in medium size font.

#2) Stand in front of a mirror that you’ve stood in front of many times, and read your speech out in full content, while looking into the mirror frequently. Repeat this process at least 3 times.

#3) Now take a deep & refreshing breath and read it again with pauses and style. Read it as if you were presenting a story to engaged young people, eager to listen to you. Now  smile as you present it again. Repetition is critically important here.

#4) Next present your presentation to a friend, family member or even a pet. Having an audience of any nature is a necessity for you to take control of your fear of public speaking. Now do it again, with someone else. (As the sentence goes…”How do you get to Carnegie Hall…practice, practice, practice.”)

#5) Now stand in the spot that you are to make the presentation from, or at least know the lay-out of the room and the seating configuration of your audience. All of these baby-steps rebuilds your self-esteem as a speaker. Seriously, you DO know your material, so the more you honor these simplistic steps, the easier it will become.

#6) Finally record yourself and watch your presentation. We tend to be our own worse critic, but if you see how you look and sound the “safer” you’ll feel about what you are doing. Simply because you’ve  become familiar with knowing, hearing and seeing what you look like. This is just plain powerful.

Do each of these steps, and your fear WILL be eliminated.

It IS good to have some level of anxiety, but you can minimize that fear by practice, confidence & a belief in yourself.

Seriously, you ARE worth it!

Eileen Strong shows people how to speak with confidence & clarity; and delivering their compelling message successfully!

 

Killer Executive Speeches From The Podium

Lets face it….most of you are terrified to deliver a REALLY good speech! I might even say you “suck” when it comes to delivering a message that matters. And you will continue to do this with consistency, because you are letting your fear control you. And it will continue to do so.

So deal with it and CHANGE! You know your material…and you probably know most of the people in your audience. They probably are not going to lynch you if what you present is boring….but it won’t bring the results you are looking for…as usual.

So develop a game plan. Become a “gamer” like most of the younger Millenials do and have a strategy. Open with a sentence that literally grabs them, such as…”No one wants to be called a LOSER!” or “The only difference  between a rut and a grave is how deep you dig it!” That later one is of course Samuel Clemens “Mark Twain” making another incredible rational thought…put into words…like only he could.

Be creative, be free…be spontaneous. Share something from your childhood and choose a scenario that others can relate to. It might even be embarassing, but you probably learned from it…didn’t you? The more  people can relate to you, the more they will listen and that’s  the key component.

And of course PRACTICE your opening, and your closing. Your content should be  filled with worthy information…but most people begin  to “fade” after 3  to 7 seconds. So make it count. Mix it up and bring levity to it. Take a deep breath throughout your presentation, just to calm yourself. Make it brief and to the point and of course with a call to action!

Jerry Seinfeld says he will take an 8 sentence joke and bring it down to 3 or 4, because that gets THE BEST RESPONSE!

Take it from these pro’s.

Remember your’e worth it…seriously!imgres-1

Why would people rather be in a coffin instead of giving the eulogy?

Since PUBLIC SPEAKING STILL remains the #1 fear people have…Jerry Seinfeld simply said that headline sentence best! He builds it into his presentations with confidence…because that’s what he has! Many of us are not talented as him.

But for those WHO DO hate public speaking more than death…we CAN choose to take control of this fear, instead of it controlling us!

It has been proven that ALL fears can be handled and adapted to with time. You choose when and where. How critically important is it to your life to make this change and control this fear? By controlling it,… will you have more self confidence? How about better job security and respect within your work environment? These two statements alone, justify how critically important it is…that YOU choose to take the next steps.

Start by writing down your fears and what will happen to you when  you address and specifically tackle this fear. Most of your colleagues will not chastise you OR humiliate you.They probably will give you words of encouragement and state that “they’re glad they  did not have to do what you just did!”

So you do have to “name it to claim it!” By acknowledging the fear, you’ve taken the first big step in controlling it. Next you have to take the baby steps of preparing your presentation by standing in front of a mirror and presenting it to yourself. Then do it a 2nd & 3rd time…but with credibility. Each time, create something different about your presentation.

Put a pause in where it would benefit a point you need to make. Only make the pause a second or two. This technique gives your presentation impact. And only practice allows you to deliver it with clout! Remember…”think you can…think you can’t…either way you are right!”

And the acronym for FEAR is F.alse E.xpectations A.ppearing R.eal. This emotion can be a dominating force. Take these initial steps and then practice presenting to a friend or to your pet. Sounds silly…but it works!

Seeking additional help? Email me at Eileen@StrongIncentives.com with your concerns and questions. They both are free…and advice is priceless!

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“Thanks for the memories……..So as I gaze back at this picture I realize the journey that many of us have been on.

Woodrow Wilson Elementary School, West Allis, Wisconsin

Smiles, friendships, growth, loss and aging are all innocently presented in this picture. More than enough of these smiling 3rd graders have already passed away. Quite the shock! Makes you realize how brief life truly is.
As a professional speaker and trainer I share many stories from my childhood…and capture them to my audience memories.
I’ll say….”come back with me” to your years of innocence and fun filled experiences. Maybe not so much fun, but truly memorable. Or as the late great Jerry Garcia sang from the Grateful Dead….”What a long strange trip it’s been!”
Well that IS the truth. Each day lived, is another day of life that we were blessed to live and learn from.
Whether you feel alive and vibrant or slow and tired due to a multitude of reasons….you truly appreciate each day. I know you’ve heard that before….but think about it again. What if you knew you had only 1 month…or1 week or 1 day left? What would you do? What would you WANT to experience.
Please take every precious moment you are blessed with and savor it.
You are worth it….because NO one is as INCREDIBLE AS YOU!
Believe that….think that….and live it!

The power of YOUR mind! Have you ever known someone who followed the “my way or the highway?” syndrome.

The late Henry Ford said…..”think you can,….think you can’t….either way you are right!
How many times have you felt you COULD do something, then the power of your mind either scared you away or the thought of something going wrong stopped you!
Seriously, how many times have you been your own worst enemy?
Personally and professionally…I just experienced it again yesterday.

One man was truly convinced that his was THE way to do something. And this man is knowledgable on how people can come to a compromise!
Except he couldn’t compromise himself. Talk about an oxymoron.
And as a result….long term damage was done.
Just think of the word compromise and what it all means. Have you ever had to compromise in a professional or personal setting, because someone could NOT compromise?
Now I have to go thru this awkward transition, not feeling comfortable with these upcoming conversations.
Have you ever had that happen to you?

Share your feelings with me. Let me know how you would handle this awkward transition.
The only term I can come up with is “Hypocrite” and the person is not even aware of it!
Seriously…..this is weighing on my “mind”…has it ever weighed on yours?

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