Want To Deliver A Knockout Speech…but your FEAR of public speaking stops you!

It’s a fact that this #1 fear that people have, has stopped thousands of people!

You have a message that you know with confidence, but your fear limits your ability!

Do you belong to that group? Well, welcome to a group that is crowded…very crowded.

#1) Write your speech out on 8×10 sheets, and put it in medium size font.

#2) Stand in front of a mirror that you’ve stood in front of many times, and read your speech out in full content, while looking into the mirror frequently. Repeat this process at least 3 times.

#3) Now take a deep & refreshing breath and read it again with pauses and style. Read it as if you were presenting a story to engaged young people, eager to listen to you. Now  smile as you present it again. Repetition is critically important here.

#4) Next present your presentation to a friend, family member or even a pet. Having an audience of any nature is a necessity for you to take control of your fear of public speaking. Now do it again, with someone else. (As the sentence goes…”How do you get to Carnegie Hall…practice, practice, practice.”)

#5) Now stand in the spot that you are to make the presentation from, or at least know the lay-out of the room and the seating configuration of your audience. All of these baby-steps rebuilds your self-esteem as a speaker. Seriously, you DO know your material, so the more you honor these simplistic steps, the easier it will become.

#6) Finally record yourself and watch your presentation. We tend to be our own worse critic, but if you see how you look and sound the “safer” you’ll feel about what you are doing. Simply because you’ve  become familiar with knowing, hearing and seeing what you look like. This is just plain powerful.

Do each of these steps, and your fear WILL be eliminated.

It IS good to have some level of anxiety, but you can minimize that fear by practice, confidence & a belief in yourself.

Seriously, you ARE worth it!

Eileen Strong shows people how to speak with confidence & clarity; and delivering their compelling message successfully!

 

“Thanks for the memories……..So as I gaze back at this picture I realize the journey that many of us have been on.

Woodrow Wilson Elementary School, West Allis, Wisconsin

Smiles, friendships, growth, loss and aging are all innocently presented in this picture. More than enough of these smiling 3rd graders have already passed away. Quite the shock! Makes you realize how brief life truly is.
As a professional speaker and trainer I share many stories from my childhood…and capture them to my audience memories.
I’ll say….”come back with me” to your years of innocence and fun filled experiences. Maybe not so much fun, but truly memorable. Or as the late great Jerry Garcia sang from the Grateful Dead….”What a long strange trip it’s been!”
Well that IS the truth. Each day lived, is another day of life that we were blessed to live and learn from.
Whether you feel alive and vibrant or slow and tired due to a multitude of reasons….you truly appreciate each day. I know you’ve heard that before….but think about it again. What if you knew you had only 1 month…or1 week or 1 day left? What would you do? What would you WANT to experience.
Please take every precious moment you are blessed with and savor it.
You are worth it….because NO one is as INCREDIBLE AS YOU!
Believe that….think that….and live it!

Why do people lie?

Imagine if the world suffered from “Pinocchio” syndrome? Everyday all of us started with an average size nose. No problems, no exaggerations, no false “small talk” where you weren’t paying attention in the first place. Your “nose” would stay the same size!

But as you begin your day….your nose WOULD grow. Why because you LIED!

Then average person does it at least twice a day.

Take the poll and lets find out how you fare!

Research shows that married couples lie at least 14 times a week to each other. They could be small “white” lies….but they still are lies!

We lie to get out of or cover up a mistake. It is just the nature of the human being. Animals don’t do this, they just go on existing and living in the moment.

A study has shown that a child becomes exposed to lying to someone else between the ages of 3 & 4. If you wonder how we do this…it is just by example. If a child receives a gift, and they “don’t want it or like it”, they simply say so! But then they are corrected by their parents. They watch their parents tell the gift giver, “Oh no, she really does like your gift. She just wants to go out and play.”

We blatantly make up excuses in front of our child. And the first lesson in lying begins!
And it continues on from there.
Starting today, challenge yourself. Become cognizant of when you think you are concocting an excuse or a lie. Hold back, think about it and then speak the truth.
Try it…you’ll like it!

If you have been lied to and it has hurt you or affected your job, share it with me. I am in the process of working on my 2nd book, “Liars, Tigers, S.O.B.s Oh My!” I would love your input and experiences to add to my book. Names would not be shown, but the experience could and would help other people.

Why? Because we all learn from each other…and because we all lie!
Contact me at Eileen@StrongIncentives.com

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“Why NOT you?”

Russell Wilson’s dad said this to his son…repeatedly…regarding his “limitations” of being only 5’11”!
Coaches questioned whether he really could be a solid, successful quarterback and that size would hinder him.

Obviously he proved everyone wrong…as did all of his incredible teammates. Think you can, think you can’t was proven again to be right. They thought they could and they DID!

When you are making a presentation…know that you CAN make a great presentation…..and you WILL.

Remember, know your material.
Know your audience.
And KNOW that you will make a great presentation….and you will!
Just like Russell Wilson!

Call me to find out how great of a presentation YOU can make!
732-389-3868…..a simple call with powerful results!

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The powerful fear of speaking in public…is quite real!

Two weeks ago in Las Vegas at the world famous Electronics show….a CEO of a major firm….stood in front of his audience and started to present. Unfortunately, the prompter & PowerPoint failed. He stood there “paralyzed” with fright. He scanned the audience and said “I can’t do this!”

Do you ever feel as if you are being sent for punishment because you had to make a presentation? 

 

What is YOUR attitude & level of confidence whenever you have to speak? Is it like this CEO’s…or do you take it in stride, present & take the consequences? Seriously you ARE in control. Lay out your presentation in a 5 W format. Who-What- Where -When -Why. Then list one feature followed by 3 benefits. Use this as a skeletal layout & then fill in the relevant material. Use this for structure….and practice , practice, practice! You WILL SUCCEED!href=”https://eileenstrong.files.wordpress.com/2014/01/image1.jpg”>Image this!”

 

 

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Do you wish no one could see you whenever you speak?

Do you wish no one could see you whenever you speak?

How often have you felt terrified about speaking in pubic?
According to statistics, it STILL remains the #1 fear that people have.
Most people do not have the self confidence to stand up in front of an audience and speak with credibility and clarity….and have impact on their audience.
But you can….and will.
I have a FREE CD that you can simply download at my website EileenStrong.com and discover how to speak with less stress than ever before.
You know you have a message. You know your story is valid and important
Now share it with people who want to listen to YOU and truly enjoy what you say.
Neural Linguistic Programming is another great technique to help you reduce your fear of speaking.

Practice this sentence “I choose to be in control. Feeling confident when I speak…is ok with me!”
Say this sentence while pressing your thumb to one finger….and say it with meaning!
Continue on with each and every finger…and say it with meaning!
Success will be yours!
Try it! You’ll like your presentations….seriously!

Change is inevitable!

As a homeowner who took a MAJOR hit from “Super Storm Sandy” I know about CHANGE!

We lost over 13 large trees….one that was growing before the Civil War! On the up note, we are going to have a lot of sun on our in ground pool this summer. Each day we are reminded of the damage to your yard by  the huge tractor trailer marks from the wheels of the Bobcat trailers that were needed to take the fallen trees out of your yard. Oh well…..

The fact remains that CHANGE IS INEVITABLE! You have gone thru it yourself everyday since you were a child. And you adapted didn’t you? What changes have you had handle recently?

I have contracts that seem to “change” all the time. One’s that I’ve been counting on….and at last minute…they get changed! I’ve dubbed myself “The Corporate Chameleon” for a reason. Because I’ve had to adapt to change with such consistency…I’ve simply adapted to the reasons that change has happened.

LIving here on the Jersey Shore has been enjoyable and beautiful. But at what price glory?

As a “corporate chameleon” I’ve professionally and personally adapted. And am ready for more. So go ahead, and take a deep breath and get ready for the next change coming your way. Contact me at Eileen Strong for powerful techniques that will help you adapt to change with an easier transition next time it “hits” you…like “Super Storm SandyImage“…and look at it as an opportunity….and you’ll survive! 

I did….and so can you!

Published in: Uncategorized on May 20, 2013 at 6:11 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Celebrate everyday of your life!

Image  Today is my birthday and I am celebrating all weekend!

In fact I celebrate everyday the beauty of life. We are so truly blessed in so many ways, that we forget to recognize how special we are.

Whether you are young, middle age or officially now past 60, I am still smiling and loving every breath! And that is not even an exaggeration! Steps that I have taken in life have allowed me to do this. And as a result a lot of positive things have taken place.

Not just the Boy Scout motto of “Be Prepared” but figuring out what to do and when you would like it to happen makes it even better. And of course there is no guarantee on any of that…but at least you put the pieces in place!

As the newly inducted President of National Speakers Association for New Jersey, I am cranking up the next steps on speaking and training even more thru out the country. As long as I can talk, I am employed! No need to think of retirement….which is true for most speaking professionals.

Reach out and ask for help if you are stuck. Most of us really, truly want to help out a fellow human being….and all you have to do is ask! Personally, I help people get rid of the #1 fear that most of us have, and that is speaking in pubic.

If that has ever bothered you….reach out and call me! I’ll send you my free CD on 5 powerful presentation skills that work every time. Also I can coach you to feel empowered whenever you speak.

Get rid of that fear, and celebrate your confidence in life…on stage and off! You are worth it! 

Simply go to EileenStrong.com to get your FREE CD TODAY!

Did you lose your self confidence today….again?

Image What fun it was wearing Loretta Larouches Cape of confidence!   Make an effort to see this dynamic motivational speaker who specializes in STRESS management…with a smirk and a smile! All 5 ft. of here rev’s up so much energy, that each comment is applicable and appropriate to your life!

But the fact remains, it is up to you to manage your stress levels…no matter what it is. Only you can control your responses to stress….because it your mind processing those thoughts. But we allow ourselves to be our own worst enemy, and we can talk ourselves out of it! Loretta always says that everyday we should give ourselves a “TaDa”…literally giving yourself a ‘pat on the back!” And if you can’t do it, ask the person next to you, as long you return the favor.

Celebrate your day of life every day. You never know how brief it may be….

And if that seems to trite….pick up the book “God Never Blinks“….and you truly will realize how beautiful life is and in particular….your life!

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Clint Eastwood was in a great movie (like always)…but this one was called “The Good, The Bad & The Ugly”….
and it sure seems that way when you are an entrepreneur.
The good part of being self employed is that you have a sense of freedom…or not? Are you tied down to always looking for new revenues of income or new clients?
The bad part is that you are frequently on your own, making decisions about whether or not this is worth all the work.
I have learned many, many lessons from doing this…and I share this with you and my clients.
It is truly a journey, and it is good, bad and ugly….sometimes!
Alex Mandossian is a name you should seek out. He is the king of webinars…and loves the fact that he walks 50 feet from his bedroom to his office, shuts the door, and goes to work on generating income for others thru the wisdom of Webinars. It has made him very, very rich!

I’ve discovered you really have to make it a niche market and a targeted market of who you are going to go after. And you have to be relentless about this. And that is the ugly part about it!
How hungry are you?
Listen to what Tom Antion has to say and Alex Mandossian and apply what they teach and you’ll be part of the “good” and less of the “bad and the ugly.”
I’ve got too much scar tissue to prove it!