Why do people lie?

Imagine if the world suffered from “Pinocchio” syndrome? Everyday all of us started with an average size nose. No problems, no exaggerations, no false “small talk” where you weren’t paying attention in the first place. Your “nose” would stay the same size!

But as you begin your day….your nose WOULD grow. Why because you LIED!

Then average person does it at least twice a day.

Take the poll and lets find out how you fare!

Research shows that married couples lie at least 14 times a week to each other. They could be small “white” lies….but they still are lies!

We lie to get out of or cover up a mistake. It is just the nature of the human being. Animals don’t do this, they just go on existing and living in the moment.

A study has shown that a child becomes exposed to lying to someone else between the ages of 3 & 4. If you wonder how we do this…it is just by example. If a child receives a gift, and they “don’t want it or like it”, they simply say so! But then they are corrected by their parents. They watch their parents tell the gift giver, “Oh no, she really does like your gift. She just wants to go out and play.”

We blatantly make up excuses in front of our child. And the first lesson in lying begins!
And it continues on from there.
Starting today, challenge yourself. Become cognizant of when you think you are concocting an excuse or a lie. Hold back, think about it and then speak the truth.
Try it…you’ll like it!

If you have been lied to and it has hurt you or affected your job, share it with me. I am in the process of working on my 2nd book, “Liars, Tigers, S.O.B.s Oh My!” I would love your input and experiences to add to my book. Names would not be shown, but the experience could and would help other people.

Why? Because we all learn from each other…and because we all lie!
Contact me at Eileen@StrongIncentives.com

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The power of networking…..successfully! Or….how I learned to overcome procrastination.

Sometimes it  seems that networking is waste of time. In fact I have a business card that I pass out and it says   “Is this the best use of my time?”

I pass it out to several people that I meet at events. Then when I  seem them later at a different event, I frequently hear from people that the card with that phrase is STILL taped to the front of their desk or computer.

Seriously,  just think of it. How well do you make use of your time?

I have always loved the wisdom of recognized business speaker Brian Tracy. His book “Eat That Frog“is one of my favorites. The gist of the book is that you should always do the worst thing first in the morning…and I mean the thing that you procrastinate over; you simply DO NOT WANT TO DO. But then it is DONE!  And Tracy then says, if you have two horrible things to do…do the worst thing first. He calls them “frogs.” Big and ugly green frogs that seem to control our life in so many ways.

Procrastination usually comes in the form of that “frog.”  We put off doing what needs to be done until we are pressured into doing it at last minute.

How often have you done that? In fact, might you even fall into that category called the “3 P’s?”

Packrat / Procrastinator / Perfectionist

If one is a procrastinator, they frequently will be a packrat keeping “important” things in their life, that they think they will use another time. Someday, somewhere…somehow. Yet when they do the task that they have put off doing…they do it extremely well. Because they are perfectionist. Wanting to be  in control at all times.

Quite frankly I am married to one. And it sure is taxing.

Some people are only 2 out of the “3 P’s.”

Which one are you? Especially when it comes to networking. This skill is critically important in running your business successfully. Meeting people who should know about your business, but you never get around to mingling with them OR  your target rich audience effectively. You observe other people doing that….but you attempt to and do NOT follow thru. Question yourself and find out what you are afraid of. Rejection, objections or possible acceptance?

Don’t be your own worst enemy. Get out there now…and just do it!

No wonder “Nike” uses that for a logo!

Share with me your thoughts!

Eileen Strong….”The Attitude Amazon.”

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