Want To Deliver A Knockout Speech…but your FEAR of public speaking stops you!

It’s a fact that this #1 fear that people have, has stopped thousands of people!

You have a message that you know with confidence, but your fear limits your ability!

Do you belong to that group? Well, welcome to a group that is crowded…very crowded.

#1) Write your speech out on 8×10 sheets, and put it in medium size font.

#2) Stand in front of a mirror that you’ve stood in front of many times, and read your speech out in full content, while looking into the mirror frequently. Repeat this process at least 3 times.

#3) Now take a deep & refreshing breath and read it again with pauses and style. Read it as if you were presenting a story to engaged young people, eager to listen to you. Now  smile as you present it again. Repetition is critically important here.

#4) Next present your presentation to a friend, family member or even a pet. Having an audience of any nature is a necessity for you to take control of your fear of public speaking. Now do it again, with someone else. (As the sentence goes…”How do you get to Carnegie Hall…practice, practice, practice.”)

#5) Now stand in the spot that you are to make the presentation from, or at least know the lay-out of the room and the seating configuration of your audience. All of these baby-steps rebuilds your self-esteem as a speaker. Seriously, you DO know your material, so the more you honor these simplistic steps, the easier it will become.

#6) Finally record yourself and watch your presentation. We tend to be our own worse critic, but if you see how you look and sound the “safer” you’ll feel about what you are doing. Simply because you’ve  become familiar with knowing, hearing and seeing what you look like. This is just plain powerful.

Do each of these steps, and your fear WILL be eliminated.

It IS good to have some level of anxiety, but you can minimize that fear by practice, confidence & a belief in yourself.

Seriously, you ARE worth it!

Eileen Strong shows people how to speak with confidence & clarity; and delivering their compelling message successfully!

 

Killer Executive Speeches From The Podium

Lets face it….most of you are terrified to deliver a REALLY good speech! I might even say you “suck” when it comes to delivering a message that matters. And you will continue to do this with consistency, because you are letting your fear control you. And it will continue to do so.

So deal with it and CHANGE! You know your material…and you probably know most of the people in your audience. They probably are not going to lynch you if what you present is boring….but it won’t bring the results you are looking for…as usual.

So develop a game plan. Become a “gamer” like most of the younger Millenials do and have a strategy. Open with a sentence that literally grabs them, such as…”No one wants to be called a LOSER!” or “The only difference  between a rut and a grave is how deep you dig it!” That later one is of course Samuel Clemens “Mark Twain” making another incredible rational thought…put into words…like only he could.

Be creative, be free…be spontaneous. Share something from your childhood and choose a scenario that others can relate to. It might even be embarassing, but you probably learned from it…didn’t you? The more  people can relate to you, the more they will listen and that’s  the key component.

And of course PRACTICE your opening, and your closing. Your content should be  filled with worthy information…but most people begin  to “fade” after 3  to 7 seconds. So make it count. Mix it up and bring levity to it. Take a deep breath throughout your presentation, just to calm yourself. Make it brief and to the point and of course with a call to action!

Jerry Seinfeld says he will take an 8 sentence joke and bring it down to 3 or 4, because that gets THE BEST RESPONSE!

Take it from these pro’s.

Remember your’e worth it…seriously!imgres-1

Why would people rather be in a coffin instead of giving the eulogy?

Since PUBLIC SPEAKING STILL remains the #1 fear people have…Jerry Seinfeld simply said that headline sentence best! He builds it into his presentations with confidence…because that’s what he has! Many of us are not talented as him.

But for those WHO DO hate public speaking more than death…we CAN choose to take control of this fear, instead of it controlling us!

It has been proven that ALL fears can be handled and adapted to with time. You choose when and where. How critically important is it to your life to make this change and control this fear? By controlling it,… will you have more self confidence? How about better job security and respect within your work environment? These two statements alone, justify how critically important it is…that YOU choose to take the next steps.

Start by writing down your fears and what will happen to you when  you address and specifically tackle this fear. Most of your colleagues will not chastise you OR humiliate you.They probably will give you words of encouragement and state that “they’re glad they  did not have to do what you just did!”

So you do have to “name it to claim it!” By acknowledging the fear, you’ve taken the first big step in controlling it. Next you have to take the baby steps of preparing your presentation by standing in front of a mirror and presenting it to yourself. Then do it a 2nd & 3rd time…but with credibility. Each time, create something different about your presentation.

Put a pause in where it would benefit a point you need to make. Only make the pause a second or two. This technique gives your presentation impact. And only practice allows you to deliver it with clout! Remember…”think you can…think you can’t…either way you are right!”

And the acronym for FEAR is F.alse E.xpectations A.ppearing R.eal. This emotion can be a dominating force. Take these initial steps and then practice presenting to a friend or to your pet. Sounds silly…but it works!

Seeking additional help? Email me at Eileen@StrongIncentives.com with your concerns and questions. They both are free…and advice is priceless!

The powerful fear of speaking in public…is quite real!

Two weeks ago in Las Vegas at the world famous Electronics show….a CEO of a major firm….stood in front of his audience and started to present. Unfortunately, the prompter & PowerPoint failed. He stood there “paralyzed” with fright. He scanned the audience and said “I can’t do this!”

Do you ever feel as if you are being sent for punishment because you had to make a presentation? 

 

What is YOUR attitude & level of confidence whenever you have to speak? Is it like this CEO’s…or do you take it in stride, present & take the consequences? Seriously you ARE in control. Lay out your presentation in a 5 W format. Who-What- Where -When -Why. Then list one feature followed by 3 benefits. Use this as a skeletal layout & then fill in the relevant material. Use this for structure….and practice , practice, practice! You WILL SUCCEED!href=”https://eileenstrong.files.wordpress.com/2014/01/image1.jpg”>Image this!”

 

 

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You know your material….why don’t people remember when you speak?

ImageGrant & Kristin both know their professions extremely well! He’s a professional videographer…..and she’s in nursing management. They excel within their fields, and when they are asked questions….they give you concise and concrete answers. That simply means that their listening audience remembers what they said. 

They know how to talk and present because their mother is a professional speaker. And yes they have learned. 

Do people remember you whenever you speak on a topic? Or are your nerves in such a dominant factor that people remember more of your er’s, ah’s & um’s. In Toastmasters we actually have a counter for all of your “er’s & ah’s” to be counted. This is to make you more aware of how you can minimize this weakness and work at eliminating  that habit significantly.

When you speak, focus on the KEYPOINT of what your message is…..and bring it to your audiences attention (no matter the size) at least 3 to 5 times. You want your message and key points to be REMEMBERED…so that they come back and want to learn more from you. 

And of course…..do MORE business with you.

I’ve revamped the K.I.S.S. theory  – Keep It Simple Successfully! Be content rich when you speak; repeat your Key point and be remembered because of what you presented.

As a professional presentations skills expert Strong Incentives can show you how to do this! Call today and make positive changes today in your next presentation. 

 

 

Celebrate everyday of your life!

Image  Today is my birthday and I am celebrating all weekend!

In fact I celebrate everyday the beauty of life. We are so truly blessed in so many ways, that we forget to recognize how special we are.

Whether you are young, middle age or officially now past 60, I am still smiling and loving every breath! And that is not even an exaggeration! Steps that I have taken in life have allowed me to do this. And as a result a lot of positive things have taken place.

Not just the Boy Scout motto of “Be Prepared” but figuring out what to do and when you would like it to happen makes it even better. And of course there is no guarantee on any of that…but at least you put the pieces in place!

As the newly inducted President of National Speakers Association for New Jersey, I am cranking up the next steps on speaking and training even more thru out the country. As long as I can talk, I am employed! No need to think of retirement….which is true for most speaking professionals.

Reach out and ask for help if you are stuck. Most of us really, truly want to help out a fellow human being….and all you have to do is ask! Personally, I help people get rid of the #1 fear that most of us have, and that is speaking in pubic.

If that has ever bothered you….reach out and call me! I’ll send you my free CD on 5 powerful presentation skills that work every time. Also I can coach you to feel empowered whenever you speak.

Get rid of that fear, and celebrate your confidence in life…on stage and off! You are worth it! 

Simply go to EileenStrong.com to get your FREE CD TODAY!

Speak with clarity, credibility and confidence every time!

“But I don’t want to give a speech!”…or in your mind you will say…..”Oh good grief, I hate doing this….can’t somebody else do this instead of me?

How often have you turned down the opportunity to make a presentation, simply because of fear, or the thought of rejection because you simply did not want to stand up infront up a group of people and talk?

Well, this IS costing you money! In fact you are leaving money on the table, every time this fear takes control of you. The irony is that you DO KNOW YOUR TOPIC! You understand your business and your services….and most certainly you can talk about it to so many people….as long as you are NOT standing in front of someone!

This is a lost marketing opportunity….and it is time to change that! I am inviting you to listen to the recording I just did for Powerful You with Sue Urda and it will be played on February 21st. I believe it will be on at 1pm, but just double check at what time zone it will be in for you!

Join me for this incredible, content rich recording and listen and learn….and walk away with techniques that can truly make a difference for you and your business today.
It will be worth your time….and your confidence and your powerful presentation skills!

“See you” on the call!

Eileen

Public Speaking Fears….Why Is It the Worst?

I went to the NJAWBO statewide meeting Thursday, April 1st…introduced myself to many people and remained amazed how many people that I networked with, were confident talking “one to one” but terrified, literally scared of talking to a group.
Why is that?
The fear of making a mistake?
The fear of being judged by someone?
The fear of people talking about you behind their back, after you have finished?
Why?
But the fact remains….the more people that I talked to…they concurred that it truly affected them. The public podium was “not their cup of tea.” They would rather sell to a small group or individually.
In the long run…..this fear can truly affect your ‘bottom line.” Taking control of this “fear” and not letting it affect your confidence is critically important.
Work with a business/presentations coach….LIKE ME….or find one who can train you to a level of confidence…that you no longer keep making excuses.
You have heard it before…..the only fear you have is fear itself….and the acronym for fear is F.alse E.xpectations A.ppearing R.eal.
It is in your mind that is keeping and creating this fear. You can control this emotion. And it IS time to do just that.
Practice…practice….practice. In front of a mirror, and a friend or a pet. They will remain unbiased!

A man that I was networking with yesterday had a speech on being “Green” in the Garden State.
I asked him…”What is your opening sentence?” He said he was going to introduce himself….and then just proceed into his topic.
Within a minute, I told him to change his opening to:
“How many of you have ever seen Sesame Street?
“How many of you know who Kermit the Frog is”
“Well, do you remember Kermits….most famous song…..It’s Not Easy Being Green?”

He thought about this….and his colleague even encouraged him to change his opening….and he agreed!
By asking your audience a question, you engage them. This in turn makes YOU even more comfortable.
Think of the changes you can make the next time you speak. Improvement is easier than you think!
Call me for next steps….your peers will be “green” with envy….when they see the confident speaker you were meant to be!

Eileen Strong
Strong Incentives….Powerful Results…Positive Presentations!